Many people continue to live with their parents well into their adult years. If living with you is limiting your adult child’s quality of life or your own happiness, it may be time to talk to them about moving out. Fortunately, there are ways to broach the subject that are gentle, respectful, and compassionate. Learn more about what you can do and how family counseling can help with the guide below.

How to Encourage an Adult Child to Move Out

1. Have a Loving Conversation

All adults crave freedom, space, and privacy. While you don’t want your child to feel alienated, remind them that they’ll be far more comfortable when they have the opportunity to do what they want on their own time, without the constant worry of someone being around the corner or interrupting them.

Encourage your adult child to think about the benefits of leaving home and establishing a life and space of their own. Explain that it’s difficult for you, too, but that you want the very best for them.

2. Consider Family Counseling

When a child moves out, it can change the dynamic of the family for both the parent and the adult child. If one or both of you are struggling to come to terms with the change or are having a hard time breaking away from one another, consider seeing a family counseling specialist.

Therapy will give you the opportunity to discuss your concerns, share your fears, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

3. Offer Tangible Help

Offering some solid support can also be extremely valuable to your adult child. They may not know where to start, or they may feel overwhelmed by the prospect of finding a home. These are areas where you can be of service and guidance.

Help them search in areas that they like, offer advice if asked, and provide some gentle suggestions. Give your adult child the space to make a choice on their own but make it clear that you’re there to help them through the process if they need it.

If you and your adult child could benefit from seeing a family counseling specialist, turn to Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP in Rochester, NY. This licensed professional counselor has been serving the community since 1995 and offers a variety of services to help you improve your life and focus on your mental health needs. Visit the website for more information, or call (585) 734-6826 to schedule an appointment.