A shiva call is an important Jewish tradition in the mourning period after someone has passed. If you’ve been invited to a funeral service for someone of the Jewish faith, their family may be observing shiva. Understand what to expect and the appropriate etiquette to follow when making a shiva call to the mourning family.

An Introduction to the Shiva Custom

What It Is

The family of the deceased will sit shiva for seven days for formalized mourning. This is done in the period after the funeral service and before the morning service, and it’s called Shacharit.

The family may choose to observe it for a shorter period, and it may be held in the home of the deceased or a close family member. While the family is sitting shiva in the home, they’ll establish hours and days for visitors can come. When friends and family arrive to pay their respects, they’re performing their shiva calls.

Etiquette to Follow

Plan to visit during the posted hours, which should be announced at the funeral service or written in the obituary. Expect a subdued atmosphere of mourning and dress casually in dark colors. Simply enter the home; ringing the doorbell or knocking will disturb the mourners. There should be a greeter inside who will bring you to the main room.

The family will likely be sitting on low stools. Wait for them to speak before providing condolences. Keep it simple and let the mourners lead the conversation in whatever they’d like to talk about. If you want to bring something for the family, give food rather than flowers or a gift. The call shouldn’t last longer than an hour.

If you’ve lost a loved one, turn to Cremation Service of Western New York in Rochester. The staff will help you lay them to rest and say goodbye, and their funeral director will help you plan a service that meets your needs and religious customs. They’re family-owned and locally operated, offering a personal touch for your funeral arrangements. To learn more about how they’ll provide support, visit their website or call (585) 544-4500.