When parents live in the same area and are able to agree on decisions about their children’s well-being, a judge might award shared custody. Even when parents end their relationship on good terms, caring for children in two different households requires a bit of adjusting. To co-parent successfully with your ex, follow the advice here. 

3 Tips to Co-Parent in Shared Custody Arrangements 

1. Create a Plan

Children need structure to help them establish a sense of security. To that end, sit down with your co-parent to map out a plan to raise your children. If necessary, a parenting coordinator should be looped into the conversation to provide insight and an objective point of view.

The plan should include the children’s routine—including pick up and drop off times—and the responsibilities of each parent. The plan should also outline which holidays the kids will spend with each parent, the appropriate length of time before introducing potential stepparents, and how to handle other situations that could arise.

2. Talk About Progress

Schedule weekly or monthly meetings with your co-parent to talk about the kids and the terms of the custody arrangement. The conversation should focus on how your children are doing in school, their healthcare needs, and their adjustment to a two-household living situation. If there are any issues with your kids, you can use these meetings as an opportunity to determine how best to handle the various situations.

3. Be Mindful Around the Kids

If the split was bitter, it might be difficult to not show frustration about your ex in front of the kids. However, you should resist the urge to make negative comments about your co-parent around your children. Negative statements can influence your children’s feelings about their other parent and how they act while in their care.

For professional help outlining the terms of your child custody arrangement, reach out to Fulcher Law Firm in Albemarle, NC. With over 20 years of experience, the attorney helps parents in Montgomery and Stanly counties work out arrangements in their children's best interests after a divorce or legal separation. Connect with the counselor online to see how he will help with custody, alimony, and other aspects of the split, or call (704) 984-6060 for a consultation.