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Private funerals are limited in terms of attendance, and typically only include close family and friends. Families may choose this option for several reasons, from privacy concerns to religious or cultural customs. Whether you're invited or not, you may be uncertain as to how to approach this type of service. To ensure you respond appropriately, learn more below.

If You’re Invited

If you're invited to a private funeral, know that it's meant to be a small gathering, and the family limited the number of attendees purposefully. For this reason, don't bring someone else with you or ask if you can bring another person. Also, don't ask sensitive questions, such as why they decided to make the funeral private. You can show your support simply by showing up, participating, and giving your condolences.

funeralPrivate funerals are typically brief. You may be asked to share memories of the deceased or join their family for a meal afterward. Beyond this, it's best to let the immediate family grieve privately, especially if you're not close to them.

If You Aren’t Invited

Don't get offended, ask why, or demand an invitation if you aren't invited to a private funeral. Again, the family may have sensitive reasons for keeping the gathering small. You can still respectfully express condolences through a phone call or written letter showing your support. You can also contact the funeral home about sending flowers to the service.

 

Porto Funeral Homes have been serving New Haven County, CT, with funeral, burial, and cremation services for over 75 years. Their compassionate team will help you organize the service you need, regardless of the size, and guide you through the planning process. Find out more about their offerings online, or discuss your funeral planning needs with a team member by calling (203) 467-3000 for East Haven or (203) 934-5000 for West Haven.

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