Divorce is a painful and emotionally taxing experience, especially when kids are involved. While you can leave all of the legal issues to your attorney, it’s up to you and your spouse to break the news to your children. Below is a brief guide to help you discuss the situation and provide your kids with the support they need.

How to Break the News

Regardless of the personal issues that exist between you and your divorcee, it’s essential that you put up a united front and tell your children about the divorce together. This sends a clear message that you are still there for them as parents regardless of your marital status. Steer clear of blaming each other and save the points about marital complications for your attorney. Instead, let your children know that the divorce is not their fault and has nothing to do with how much you love them.

Children react differently to learning about divorce, so you need to be understanding and compassionate whether they cry, yell, scream, or have little to no reaction at all. Some kids may express anger, while others may be concerned with how the divorce will impact them. They may ask if they have to move or go to a new school, so make sure you acknowledge their feelings, however they manifest, and do your best to answer the questions they have. If they ask you about something you’re not yet sure of, check with your attorney first so you can give them an accurate answer. 

Support Them As They Process Their Feelings

Let your kids know that they can come to you at any time to talk to you about the divorce. Their feelings will likely change, and it’s important that they feel they can be open and honest with you as they process their emotions. Try to keep their daily activities as routine as possible and resist the urge to spoil or coddle them. Kids find comfort in regularity, and maintaining firm boundaries will help foster stability.

If you’re considering filing for divorce, contact Pepping, Balk, Kincaid & Olson, Ltd. in Silvis, IL. With more than 75 years io combined experience, this team of skilled attorneys represents more than 2,000 clients each year in a wide range of cases, from divorce and child custody to business law and estate planning. Visit their website or call (309) 755-5096 to schedule an appointment today.