Sending sympathy and funeral flowers helps people express their condolences to family and friends. These types of occasions can be delicate, so it’s important to follow a few etiquette tips to ensure your gift is well received. Use this guide to help you remain respectful and make the most of the gesture.

What to Know About Sending Funeral Flowers

Which arrangements are appropriate?

Casket covers are generally reserved for family members, so send a flowering plant, gift basket, wreath, or vase arrangement instead. Choose a simple funeral flower arrangement, as large displays will be distracting during the service. White lilies, pink carnations, and chrysanthemums are traditionally found at funerals, as they express respect and condolences.

Can I deliver flowers after the funeral?

If you can’t attend the service, send flowers to the family’s home. Choose something small and demure so that it isn’t visually overwhelming and can fit through the front door. Stick with potted houseplants or a simple vase arrangement. You can either deliver them in person or use a delivery service.

Can I send flowers if I’ve never met the deceased or their family?

It’s acceptable to send flowers to the deceased’s family if you don’t know them but knew the deceased—it’s also OK if you know the family but not the deceased. Include a short note that explains your connection to the deceased, or if you know the family, express your condolences. Your kind gesture will be appreciated regardless of the relationship.

Are there special rules for other religions?

Funeral flowers aren’t appropriate at Jewish funerals and may or may not be welcome at a Muslim service, depending on the individual. Avoid displays shaped like a cross unless relevant to the religion and abide by color guidelines, such as no red at Buddhist funerals. When it doubt, ask the family or a religious leader in your area.

If you want to send funeral flowers, turn to Bella Rosa Corporation in Honolulu, HI. These florists have created beautiful, custom flower arrangements for over 20 years, and they’ll deliver your order anywhere on the island. View their sympathy arrangements online, or call (808) 848-7673 or (808) 951-0787 to place an order.