A eulogy is the centerpiece of any funeral service; it’s a speech given by a loved one in which they honor the life and accomplishments of the deceased. While being asked to deliver a eulogy is a privilege, it is one that can often feel overwhelming; after all, you need to pay respectful tribute to the deceased while managing your own grief and standing up in front of a roomful of people. Below, learn some ways to write and deliver a eulogy for a funeral service.

Writing

First, organize your thoughts and ideas for the eulogy. Most discuss the highlights of the life of the deceased, their personal attributes and character traits, and stories involving them. Talk to other family members and friends of the deceased to gather memories.

Then, decide what information you want to include and structure it in a logical way that flows from one idea to the next. Open with an introduction that acknowledges why everyone has come together on this important day; then share a brief biography of the deceased, highlighting any special accomplishments; follow this with memories and stories; and close with some words of wisdom or comfort, perhaps a few lines from a poem or song.

Don't feel pressured to make everything serious or weighted with meaning. Eulogies often contain some humor; use your own discretion as to how much humor you think is appropriate. Also, the goal is to celebrate and pay respect to the deceased person, so don't discuss unflattering, embarrassing, or unseemly topics.

Delivering

Before you deliver a eulogy at a funeral service, rehearse it at home. Aim to rehearse it several times until you are comfortable with the text and feel prepared to present it. At the service, take a few deep breaths before walking up to the podium.

Stand with your legs slightly apart and knees slightly bent to prevent losing your balance. Speak loudly, clearly, and slowly. Remember to read your audience's reactions; during a funny or emotional part, give them a few beats to respond before proceeding.

If you get emotional during the eulogy, don't be ashamed or embarrassed; you're simply expressing grief, and the audience will understand. As soon as you are comfortable, compose yourself and return to the text. Take your time and keep the goal of the eulogy in mind: paying tribute to a special person.

A eulogy is just one part of a memorable funeral service. Dennis George Funeral Home will help you with all the other aspects of this important event. Since 1997, they have been serving families throughout the Cleves, Miami Township, and Hamilton County, OH, regions. They offer funeral, burial, and cremation services, as well as funeral planning and pre-planning guidance. Call (513) 941-6700 or visit their website to schedule a consultation.