Many people find comfort in visiting their loved ones’ gravestones long after they’ve passed. The practice welcomes ceremonies and creativity, and there are several ways to spend a visit. Below are a few ideas you can try alone or with friends and family next time you visit your loved one’s resting place.

What to Do When You Go to a Gravesite

1. Provide a Life Update

Many people visit grandparents, siblings, and spouses to share updates about what’s going on in their lives. Talk about a recent promotion, an important milestone you achieved, a family trip, and any events you’re excited about. Don’t be afraid to discuss challenges you face, as you may find that opening up reduces stress and guides you toward solutions.

2. Decorate the Headstone

Since gravestones become physical representations of lost loved ones, families often decorate them to further personalize each site. You may want to lay down flowers on an anniversary, leave school pictures of grandchildren, or set down a flag for a veteran. Check the cemetery’s website to review their guidelines for permitted decorations before the trip.

3. Reminisce With Family

Bringing your family to the site helps children bond with and remember the departed. You can share stories of your experiences with the person, have a picnic, and enjoy quiet music. It’s an opportunity to remember together how important your loved one continues to be.

4. Say Prayers

Cemeteries are deeply spiritual for many people. During the visit, you may want to read a chapter from a religious text to honor your loved one’s belief system. Pick passages that remind you of their philosophy, or create some of your own prayers. 

If you’ve recently lost a loved one, Derrick Monument Company, Inc. will craft a stunning memorial for their gravesite. They’ve been part of the Le Roy, NY, community since 1915, creating beautiful gravestones and monuments that stand the test of time. Begin exploring available options on their website, or call (585) 768-8470 to schedule a design consultation.