Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone is a weighty decision, and it might not always be the right one. At some point, it may serve you and your spouse to consider separating. If you’re wondering when to draw the line, take a look at these three reasons to consider divorce.

When You Should Consider Divorce

1. The Absence of Small Arguments

When it comes to relationships, you might regard arguments as a negative aspect across the board. In actuality, bickering and small arguments are signs of a healthy connection. It’s only natural that you’ll disagree at times, but when you do, there should be a passionate urge to get the other person to agree or find a compromise in between. If you don’t feel compelled to participate in the conflict-resolution cycle, that likely indicates you’ve lost hope or interest in the relationship.

2. Growing Apart

As you start to lose touch with your spouse, you may feel more inclined to spend time on your own. If that gets lonely, you might look for emotional connections with new friends and acquaintances.

While it's healthy for each individual to have their own interests, spending too much time doing different activities is a sign you’re growing apart. For example, if you're spending every weekend volunteering or playing tennis, you might be enjoying these external social spheres more because your spouse isn’t a part of them.

3. You’ve Tried Everything

In many cases, couples have considered divorce in the past but navigated away from the finality of the decision. You may have signed up for couples counseling, talked to an individual therapist, or tried to reconnect with date nights and vacations. If it feels like you’ve tried everything and your marriage is still on the rocks, it might be time to part ways.

If you’re ready to file for divorce, turn to Coates Frey Tanimoto & Gibson, AAL, LLLC of Honolulu, HI. They have over 35 years of experience and have served over 20,000 family law cases. With their guidance, you can face your divorce, custody, or child support proceedings with confidence. To learn more about their practice areas, visit the website, or call (808) 524-4854 to schedule a free consultation today.