Making the decision to separate from a spouse is never easy. While it's important to think it through carefully, certain indicators could well mean filing for divorce is the right move. Find out what they are below.

When to Consider Filing for Divorce

1. You've Tried Counseling

Counseling can help some relationships, for example, by teaching couples how to better communicate their needs. It can't fix everything, however. If you and your spouse have tried counseling, and you still feel that your needs aren't being met, divorce may be needed.

2. You're Only Staying for the Kids

Kids are smart enough to know when their parents are no longer in a healthy, loving relationship. While divorce will be a tough transition, it will give you the chance to live a fulfilling life, free of a relationship that isn't working. It also gives your kids a chance to see their parents in loving relationships worth emulating in the future.

3. The Marriage Is No Longer a Priority

Marriage requires teamwork. When you and your spouse forget that team mentality and start thinking in “I” instead of “we” terms, the marriage may be over. You may find yourself prioritizing your work, kids, or other personal relationships over the marriage.

4. You've Already Planned Your Exit

Before filing for divorce, many people spend months or even years contemplating the move. As a next step, you may start making plans, like figuring out where you will live after the split. If you’ve already reached this step, you are mentally detached from the marriage—and can safely make it official.

5. Money Is Your Only Motive to Stay Together

Divorce does tend to result in added expenses. On top of that, some people may rely on their spouses financially.

Money matters can be amended, however. For instance, if you were dependent on your spouse, you can file for alimony to cover you until you get a job and gain financial independence. Don’t let money be your only motive to stick with a spouse.

If you are considering filing for divorce, it's best to see a lawyer first. Lonneman & Associates, PLLC can help you consider your legal options and advise on what preparatory steps to take to best protect your interests. Located in Elizabethtown, KY, they serve Hardin, Larue, Nelson, Hart, and Grayson counties with dedicated family law services, covering everything from child custody to adoption. They have been operating since 1981. Learn more about their practice areas online. For a free initial consultation, call (270) 765-2190.