In Jewish culture, the traditional mourning period is known as shiva. During this period of grief, it’s customary for family and friends to come together to honor and share their memories of a lost loved one. In addition to a funeral service, there are several other elements involved after the burial. Below, learn more about this custom and the proper etiquette. 

What Is Sitting Shiva?

Shiva can last for up to a week after the day of the burial. This period allows loved ones to gather with one another, grieve, and mourn the loss of the deceased. At its core, the intention is to provide the family with a sense of deep solace so that they recognize they aren’t alone during this difficult time. Because shiva occurs in the family home of the deceased, it’s both traditional and appropriate for mourners to make a shiva call and provide comfort.

What Are the Customs?

The shiva call times are typically announced during the funeral service. If you arrive after the burial, then it’s customary to wash your hands with a pitcher positioned near the door of the bereaved family. There’s no need to ring the doorbell, as the door is usually unlocked so that people can easily enter without disturbing the family. It’s appropriate to wear respectful, conservative attire that you might wear to a synagogue.

Should You Bring Anything?

Part of making a shiva call is being present for the people in mourning. Providing your support can come in many forms, but it’s also thoughtful to bring along some food that is simple to serve. Avoid bringing anything that may require effort, as your goal is to simplify this difficult time for the family. Baked goods, such as challah bread or rugelach, are thoughtful and well-liked. If you cannot attend, consider sending a shiva gift basket with food, tea, and comfort items. As flowers aren’t a traditional part of Jewish mourning customs, it is not considered appropriate to bring them.
 

Families who are coping with a loss in Meadville, PA, trust in the caring and compassionate staff at Robert W. Waid Funeral Home to assist them through the process. These qualified professionals provide a variety of important services. They can help plan a funeral service, assist with burial decisions, and provide guidance regarding obituaries and whole life insurance policies. To find out more, visit the website or call (814) 724-1021 to speak with a representative.