Ending a marriage is never easy. Challenges can start before you head to a divorce attorney to file documents. For many individuals, for example, telling their spouse they want to divorce is one of the hardest parts of the proceedings. Thankfully, you can make the conversation more productive—and less painful—by keeping a few simple strategies in mind. 

3 Tips for Telling Your Spouse You Want to Divorce 

1. Set Aside Time for the Conversation 

Avoid blurting out your intentions to divorce during an especially heated discussion. It may be hard not to—especially if you’re at the point where most of your conversations are heated—but such an outburst will only complicate matters.

It’s best to discuss the situation with a divorce attorney before telling your spouse so you can prepare the paperwork in advance. Once you’ve done that, plan a time for the discussion when neither of you will be distracted, such as after dinner one evening. 

2. Avoid Assigning Blame 

Assigning blame after deciding to divorce will only cause conflict. It may be tempting to list all the reasons why you want to leave the marriage, but doing so will only give your spouse the opportunity to challenge each one. As long as you’ve made up your mind, avoid discussing fault during the conversation.

3. Consider Logistics 

Upon hearing the news, your spouse will ask questions, especially if you share children or major assets, such as a home. To ensure you will remain calm and collected, consider your answers to such questions in advance. 

For example, when it comes to the children, you can reassure your spouse that you intend to share custody because it’s in their best interests to maintain a relationship with both parents.

For strategic guidance on ending your marriage, turn to the divorce attorneys at Coyne, Cundiff & Hillemann, P.C. in Lake St. Louis, MO. With more than 75 years of combined experience, their knowledgeable team knows what it takes to secure a satisfactory outcome to even the most contentious proceedings. Since they’re also well-versed in personal injury law and criminal defense, they can assist with your other legal needs, as well. To schedule a consultation with a divorce attorney, call (636) 561-5599 or visit their website to browse their practice areas.