Social media has become an integral part of modern life, and it's common to share thoughts and post pictures on everything from major life milestones to minor everyday experiences. Given how social media has changed the way many people interact, it's hardly surprising that it's also changed how folks grieve and support one another in the wake of a loved one's passing. To better understand this subject and the unwritten rules surrounding it, below are answers to common questions about funeral services and social media usage.

Answers to Common Questions About Funerals & Social Media

I recently lost a loved one. Is it appropriate to announce the death on social media?

In most cases, yes, but first contact close family members and friends personally and tell them the news before making it public. You may want to wait until you've made funeral service arrangements before posting to social media.

This way, you can post the news of the loved one's passing and give a date and time for your circle to come pay their respects. You can also link to an obituary so others can read about your loved one.

What should I post in response to my friend who has lost a loved one?

If your friend has announced the death on social media, show your love and support. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture or a long tribute. A simple statement like, "I'm sorry for your loss," is often enough.

If the friend is someone you are particularly close to, a more personal, one-on-one communication, like a private message or a phone call, may be a nice touch. Try to avoid empty platitudes and clichés, such as, "They're in a better place now" or "It was God's plan."

What if my grieving friend has not announced the death on social media?

Then follow their lead. Don't post unsolicited condolences on their page or take it upon yourself to announce the death and rally support for your friend. As well-intentioned as these measures may be, your friend may be overwhelmed with grief right now, and they have every right to process that grief on their own terms. If you're concerned, reach out to them personally, not through social media.

Can I post to social media during a funeral service?

Unless the family has expressly made a directive about social media at the funeral, refrain from posting anything during the service. Don't "check in" at the funeral home, church, or cemetery; keep your phone on silent until the end of the service.

When planning services, the funeral director can help you understand how to utilize social media for comfort and communication and avoid some of the common stressors associated with it. Dennis George Funeral Home has been serving the Miami Township and Hamilton County, OH, regions since 1997. They offer comprehensive funeral, burial, and cremation services. Call (513) 941-6700 or visit them online to schedule a consultation.