If someone you love recently died, it’s natural to turn to social media for support. Many of your friends and followers may also be grieving, after all, and engaging with them online will serve as a reminder that you’re not alone. Before you post about the deceased’s passing or the details of the funeral, though, consider proper etiquette regarding the situation, which you can read about here. 

FAQ About Grieving Etiquette in the Digital Age 

When should I post my condolences?

You may want to post about the loss as soon as you learn of it; however, if those closest to the deceased have yet to make a public statement, you should hold off. Chances are they’re still notifying friends and relatives, who deserve to hear the news in person or over the phone, not by reading about it online. If you happen to be closest to the deceased, you can post about the death whenever you feel the time is right. Keep in mind, however, that not everyone may remain quiet until you do. As such, you’ll want to notify those who deserve to hear the news from you as soon as possible. 

How can I express sympathy on other people’s posts?

People are often unsure of how to express sympathy in the wake of a tragic loss. When responding to other people’s posts, keep your message simple. Let them know you’re thinking of them during such a trying time. If words have never been your strong suit, sharing a photo of the deceased is also a tasteful way to send your condolences. 

Can I post about the funeral?

It’s okay to remind your friends and followers of the funeral once the family has published the date and time. Before posting about the actual service, though, consider how it might be received—for example, “checking in” at the funeral home or sharing your thoughts on the music selection might be best kept to yourself. In most cases, commenting on the funeral period should be avoided. 

Should I speculate on the cause of death?

If the cause of death is unclear—if the deceased committed suicide, for example, or caused a drunk driving accident, the obituary is unlikely to state as much—do not speculate online. Do not engage with others who are speculating, either, even if you simply want to protect the deceased’s reputation. 

If someone close to you has passed, turn to the compassionate team at Northcutt & Son Home for Funerals for help planning a beautiful service. Located in Morehead, KY, this family-owned and -operated funeral home has been hosting services and memorials since 1976. To learn about the various ways they can help you honor the deceased, visit their website or call (606) 784-6491.