Death is complicated no matter your age but can be especially hard for children. They may struggle to understand, and many parents wonder if their children should even attend funeral services. If you’re having trouble making a decision, rely on these answers to common questions to help you out.

How to Talk About Death & Funerals With Children

At what age should I discuss death?

It’s best to talk about these topics with children aged 4 and over. Younger children may not be able to understand the concept of death or what is going on at the funeral service. It’s important not to scare or confuse them. Unless the deceased is a direct relative, you may want to leave children at home, especially if you’re worried they’ll have trouble being quiet or keeping still.

How much should I explain about the funeral?

The more you explain, the better. Preparation is key and children will want to know what to expect. It’s important to explain the process of a funeral service, how it’s a celebration of life, and a chance to say goodbye. Tie in relevant religious meanings when talking with your little ones. Explain that family and friends will come together to talk, give speeches, and say goodbye to your loved one. Explain the burial service as well; describe it as a way for your loved one to “rest,” move into the afterlife, or to be set free.

Most importantly, be available to answer questions. Children will ask many, and the more you answer, the better prepared they’ll be.

What should I do if there’s a wake?

Seeing the deceased can be difficult for anyone, so if a wake is part of the funeral service, you’ll want to prepare your children. Explain that the deceased will be dressed nicely and resting in the coffin. Describe the funeral home, and let them know who will be there. New places can be intimidating for children, but assure them you’ll be there to help them through it.

What if the deceased is cremated?

Children may misinterpret cremation as a cause of death or something painful for the deceased, so explain carefully. Avoid words like “burned”; instead, you may want to say the deceased was reduced or turned into ashes. Share your plans for the cremated remains. Explaining that they’ll help flowers in a cremation garden grow is a great way to bring a positive light upon the process.

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