Attending a funeral for a loved one is a difficult experience for adults, but for children, it can be confusing or frightening. For many young ones, the service is an important part of the grieving process. If you decide to let your child attend, here are some tips on how to make them more comfortable.

How to Help Your Child With Their First Funeral 

1. Explain What’s Happening

Although elementary age kids and older may know what a funeral is, they may not fully understand what to expect. When someone passes away, explain to them what death is and what it means.

Go over what they can expect to happen at the funeral, and answer all of their questions. They may ask unexpected questions, so be prepared. 

2. Offer Reassurance

Before the funeral, let your little one know that people are going to be sad during the service, and that it’s okay if they feel upset as well. Reassure them that it’s okay to grieve, and that you are there for them when they need you. On the day of the service, let them bring a comfort item like a favorite blanket or stuffed toy. 

3. Read Books Together

Your local library or bookstore likely has some age-appropriate books about death and funerals. Children often relate to characters, and reading about others can help them understand their feelings. When you read together, be ready to answer questions and offer comfort. 

4. Follow Their Lead

During the funeral, and at the events leading up to it, follow your child’s lead and don’t force them to do anything that makes them uncomfortable or afraid. For example, they may be hesitant to look in the casket or give hugs to unfamiliar relatives. Don’t expect full obedience, and allow them to stay within their comfort zone. 

5. Be Open With Your Grief

Don’t be afraid to show your grief or emotions during this time. Your kids learn how to grieve and respond to death from you, so be open about your feelings and talk about the person who died. Remind them that these emotions are normal, and that you will heal in time. 

For more than 70 years, Johnson Funeral Home in Monroeville, AL, has helped families say goodbye to their loved ones. In addition to funeral services, they also provide funeral pre-planning assistance, cremations, and monuments. Call (251) 575-3222 or visit their website to schedule a consultation with a caring, compassionate professional.