Telling your children you’re getting a divorce can be challenging. However, you can take certain steps to ease the conversation for everyone involved. Here are three important tips for talking to your kids about the separation.

How to Tell Your Children About the Divorce

1. Make a Plan

Work with your partner to create a plan of action before the talk begins. This will keep the conversation on the facts, leaving personal emotions out of it. Otherwise, an accidental slip may incline the kids to blame one parent. Making a plan also keeps the messaging consistent, so your children won’t hear different reasons as to why this change is happening.

2. Release the News Together

Let your children hear the news from you and your spouse together. This will help them understand they won’t lose either of you and that you’ll both continue parenting as a team. Present a united front by announcing that the decision was reached mutually by both sides. Emphasize that the divorce isn’t your kids’ fault and that they can always rely on both of you for love and support.

3. Accept Their Reactions

Depending on their ages and personalities, your kids may react to the news in a wide variety of ways. For example, some children may cry or yell while others will seem unaffected by the information. Like adults, kids often experience numerous conflicting emotions when processing a difficult event, and their reactions may change by the day. Regardless of how your children react, help them feel more secure by telling them their feelings are valid. Although the divorce is between you and your spouse, focus on your kids, and be patient while they come to terms with the change.

To make your divorce a little less overwhelming, turn to the Law Offices of Brian J De Lima in Hilo, HI. These attorneys are dedicated to helping families find a new normal. They’ve helped clients navigate divorce, child custody, and alimony for over 34 years. To get more information on how they can help, visit them online or call (808) 969-7707.