As an adult, attending a funeral service often brings closure and comfort. For children, the issue can be a little more complicated. Some children will feel better after attending, while others might be upset or confused by the experience. Whether you take your children to the service or not is a personal decision, and the right answer depends on your situation.

What to Consider

There are a few factors to balance when deciding if your child should attend a funeral service. First, how old are they, and how well can they sit quietly through long events? If your child is likely to be disruptive, they probably shouldn't attend.

Also, consider how close they were with the deceased. If the two didn't know each other well, your child is less likely to benefit from attending a memorial service. If they were close, the ceremony might help your child understand the situation better.

Finally, talk to your child about what will be expected when they're at the funeral home, church, or gravesite. Your child may have an opinion on what they want to do. You should try to respect your child’s desires while also preparing them for the emotions they’ll experience.

What Parts Should They Attend?

Your child may not need to come to all of the events associated with the service. For example, seeing the remains at a wake or viewing can be confusing for young children, and it may be difficult to explain to them without being disruptive. Even if they understand, it can be an upsetting situation. The same is true of the actual burial.

The ceremony itself may be the most appropriate occasion for your child. They may even be able to participate in a reading or a song if they like. Also, you can bring them to the reception after the service so they can talk to others and spread positive memories of the deceased.

For help planning a funeral service that the entire family will find comforting, contact A Natural State Funeral Service in Jacksonville, AR. Serving Pulaski County since 2015, they are committed to providing dignified, respectful funeral arrangements with compassion for all involved. Call (501) 982-3400 for help with planning or visit their website to learn more.