Funeral services are somber occasions. Whether you’re attending one for the first time or accompanying someone who has never attended before, it may be helpful to consider a few basic do’s and don’ts regarding proper etiquette. Here’s what you should know to properly honor your loved one that has passed.

A Guide to Funeral Etiquette

Do:

Arrive on time.

In general, it’s best to show up at least 10 minutes before the beginning of the funeral service. This will allow you ample time to sign the guestbook and find a seat. Bear in mind that if you are a little bit late, you may find that there’s only room to stand at the back of the viewing area or chapel.  

Dress conservatively.

Unless otherwise instructed, it’s best to dress conservatively for the service. Black is the traditional color of mourning, and it’s always a suitable choice. Avoid wearing anything that could be considered too showy or casual. Men should wear suits and ties, or tailored slacks and shirts. Women can opt for simple skirts, dresses, or pants. It’s best to wear dark dress shoes with the outfit.

Don’t:

Use electronic devices.

It’s a sign of respect to put away your electronic device during the service, including your cell phone and tablet. If you do need to make a phone call or even respond to a text message, it’s better to step outside so that you don’t disturb those nearby. If your children are with you, make sure that they understand the solemnity of the moment and that it isn’t an appropriate time to play games on their phone or tablet.  

Neglect to greet the family.

For those who haven’t been to a funeral service before, there may be a sense of anxiety about saying the “right” words to the bereaved. However, it’s important to remember that your presence and your condolences alone speak volumes. You don’t need to express yourself in a lengthy and confusing way. Merely sharing your sorrows is enough. If you were close to the deceased, you might state that you’ll check in with the family soon and offer more tangible help, such as bringing food to them, at that point.
 

Families throughout La Crosse, WI, and the surrounding areas have trusted in the compassionate staff at Fossum Funeral Home since 1926. They can assist you in making funeral service plans, making a choice between a burial service or cremation, and planning the memorial. Visit them online to find out more or call (608) 783-9777 to speak with a caring representative today.