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Funerals are rooted in the traditions of most cultures, and practices can vary among religious beliefs. If you’re attending a Jewish service for the first time, understand the etiquette to accompany the rites and customs. Below is a complete guide to ensure respectful attendance.

Attire

Blend in with the funeral crowd; the wrong clothes can be offensive or may draw too much attention. Men should play it safe by wearing a black or neutral-colored suit, tie, and slacks. Women should wear conservative dresses that show minimal bare skin. Traditionally, men wear a head covering called a kippah, which may be available at the door of the synagogue for non-Jewish guests to wear during the service.

Interactions

funeralSmall talk is discouraged at Jewish funerals. This is especially true with the family of the deceased. It is appropriate, however, to read Psalms to one another until the service begins. During the ceremony, a religious leader and family members will recite prayers and eulogize the deceased.

Burial

It’s polite to attend the burial after the service. You may be invited to shovel dirt over the casket once it’s placed in the grave. Shovel a light amount in and then stick the shovel into the loose soil. Don’t pass the shovel—the custom demands that each person draw and return the shovel to the earth.

After, the rabbi will ask that attendees form two lines so that the mourning family can walk between them. This is a practice to assure them that they aren’t alone in their loss. Remember to refrain from talking or consoling during this practice.

Reception

Many families will host a reception after the funeral. In the week leading up to the service, ask the reception organizer if you can bring food or help in any way. The goal is that the mourners shouldn’t have to do any work. However, don’t send flowers. Aside from the fact that it’s tradition not to have flowers, some believe that blooms’ life cycles are cut short when they’re used for an arrangement and that their death can create a negative symbol.

When you arrive, you may be asked to wash your hands. Do so with each hand three times, alternating between them. This practice is to remove any negative spirits.

Receptions can be a time to socialize, but pay attention to what others are doing. If they’re conversing, feel free to take part, though don’t speak with the mourning family unless spoken to. Remember that it’s always wisest to play it safe.

 

If you need assistance with a funeral service for any faith, contact Mihovk-Rosenacker Funeral Home. With two locations in Cincinnati, OH, these professionals offer a variety of funeral services and after-life care. They can handle cremation, traditional burial, and funeral planning, and they carry a large selection of urns, caskets, and other products. Visit their website to learn more, and call (513) 385-0511 to schedule a consultation. Connect on Facebook for news and updates.

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