Child custody is one of the most emotional and challenging issues to resolve when a relationship ends. Even if the separation is amicable, it can be difficult figuring out a schedule that works for everyone. However, it’s important for ex-partners to do their best to create a mutually acceptable parenting plan, or it will be left to the court to decide an arrangement. If you’re trying to work out a custody agreement, here are a few tips for having a successful discussion. 

How to Approach a Conversation About Child Custody

1. Be Realistic 

You may already have a preferred schedule in mind when sitting down to talk about custody, but it’s important to make sure your demands are practical. Having unrealistic expectations can prevent negotiations from going very far. Consider your work obligations and any other commitments you have and how this will affect your ability to tend to the children’s needs. The more open you are to trying different solutions, the easier this transition will be for the kids.

2. Understand Your Custody Options 

Before you establish a parenting plan, it’s essential for you to know the different types of child custody. Joint legal custody means both parents will make decisions for the children regarding health care, education, and religious upbringing.

Joint physical custody allows both parents to have ample parenting time, with the kids splitting their time between households. Custody schedules should include daily care of the children, as well as visitation and holidays.

3. Put Your Children First 

A parenting plan should focus on the best interests of the children. As such, you must put your feelings about the other parent aside and consider what kind of arrangement will be easiest for your kids. Take into account your children’s ages, the relationship they have with both parents, and their personality to decide on a schedule that is most suitable for their needs. 

4. Agree on a Communication Method

Determine what method of communication you both feel comfortable with when discussing details of your custody arrangement. This will help to keep you on the same page and reduce conflict. If it’s too stressful to talk in person, there are several mediums you can choose to communicate through and maintain the specifics of your agreement, such as text messaging and email.

When it comes to preserving the time you get with your children, you want a lawyer from Coyne, Cundiff & Hillemann, P.C. to advocate on your behalf. They’ll advise you of your rights and help negotiate a reasonable child custody arrangement. If you’re unable to come to an agreement outside of court, they can provide you with effective representation as you move forward in your child’s best interests. Call the Lake St. Louis, MO-based firm at (636) 561-5599 to schedule a free consultation or visit them online for more information about their family law services.