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After your divorce, you and your ex-spouse will need to work together to ensure the best outcome for your children. How you address this issue can be decided on with the help of a divorce attorney, but you should always seek a collaborative approach. Here are some guidelines to follow.

Do:

Establish a consistent method of communication.

divorce attorneyEven basic concerns like establishing pickup and drop-off times require you to communicate regularly with your ex-spouse. Establish a set method of contact, whether it’s email, text message, or phone call. Choose a method that you are both comfortable with. You should be able to reach each other easily in case of an emergency.

Create consistent standards and rules between households.

Children thrive on consistency, which can make divorce especially challenging. You can help minimize stress by establishing consistent rules, schedules, and discipline methods. Your child shouldn’t be allowed to play video games in one household and not in the other. Discuss with your ex-spouse what your child is and isn’t allowed to do. 

Don’t:

Burden your children with your negative feelings.

No matter how you feel about your ex-spouse, never get your children involved. Your kids shouldn’t feel like they have to choose one side or the other. Don’t make an emotionally charged period even tougher for your kids by bad-mouthing your ex in front of them.

Keep your ex out of the loop on important issues.

As any divorce attorney would advise you, co-parents need to be kept informed about what’s going on in their child’s life. Telling your ex about doctor’s visits, school activities, and other events creates a baseline of respect that makes it easier for both of you to support your children.

 

If you need a divorce attorney to help you navigate child support and other complex issues, contact Bristol Law Office. Serving the Roswell, NM, area for over 30 years, attorney R. Matthew Bristol and his team provide caring, personalized representation to ensure quality outcomes for their clients. To learn more about their practice areas, visit them online or call (575) 625-5284 to schedule a consultation.

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