Talking about death can be challenging, as the concept of dying is often abstract and hard to explain. As adults, it’s essential to help children understand the concepts of life and death so that they don’t develop misconceptions or hold on to fears as they grow older. Learning about funeral services and how families come together can be helpful. Here’s what you should know about talking to children about death.

A Guide to Talking to Kids About Death

1. Be Straightforward

It’s tempting to speak to children in the gentlest and most natural terms possible when discussing a topic as sensitive as death. However, it’s important not to skirt around the subject, as this can lead them to develop a sense of fear and anxiety about it. Children naturally look to adults for guidance. By speaking clearly and in a straightforward, simple way, you can help your child understand what death is. When informing them of a loved one’s passing, say that the person died. You can explain that this means they will no longer be physically present in your lives. At the same time, explain that the person’s memory will remain forever and that their lives will be celebrated at a funeral service in the coming days.

2. Explain Any Changes

If the death affects your little one’s life directly in some way, explain that there may be some small changes, but that everything will be okay. Statements like, “Grandpa will pick you up from school just like Grandma used to do,” is a thoughtful way to assure your child that things may be a little bit different, but that there are still people who love and care for them. Some kids may accept this information at face value, while others may take time to digest the news. Be mindful of the fact that everyone is different, and that what affects one child might not be the same for another. Give your child time to process, ask questions, or sit in silence.

3. Share Funeral Details

It’s also important to discuss funeral services with your child so that they don’t feel as afraid or alarmed when the day arrives. Tell them that everyone that loved the person will be there to remember and celebrate their life. Explain that there may be songs and readings throughout the service. Let your child know that people will probably cry and that this is because everyone is going to miss the person very much. Your little one should also know that it’s perfectly okay to cry, but also explain that it’s also just as appropriate to sit quietly and to ask questions if they have any. Let them know that they can stay by your side the entire time and that there is no one correct way to grieve.
 

Coping with the loss of a loved one can be difficult. The compassionate staff at Fossum Funeral Home in La Crosse, WI, is committed to providing families throughout the area with the guidance that they need during times of grief and loss. They can assist with planning a thoughtful funeral service befitting your loved one and can discuss burial services and cremation options. Visit the funeral home online for information about how they can help you, or call (608) 783-9777 to speak with a member of their caring and compassionate staff today.