Attending a funeral can be challenging for anyone, but for children, it can be confusing and hard to understand. Amidst dealing with your own emotions and handling any necessary funeral planning, take some time to prepare your children before taking them to a service. Here are a few tips for helping kids through this experience. 

How Should You Teach Your Child About Funerals?

1. Don’t Shelter Them From Death

Death is difficult at any age, but keeping the truth from your children won’t help them cope. Provide a clear explanation of death and avoid euphemisms like “passed away” or “sleeping.” Start by finding out what your child already knows or thinks about death and build on the conversation from there. Talk about your own feelings and give them permission to express their sadness, fear, or confusion that may come with the death of a loved one.

3. Answer Their Questions

Be honest and compassionate when answering any questions your child may have about death or the funeral process. Their questions could be simple or complex, so don’t be afraid to say you don’t know or look into more details together. This can help them understand that no one has all the answers and that they can process the situation alongside you. Take notice of their emotional state and make time to ask them questions about their feelings as well.

3. Help Them Understand the Service

There are funeral planning and memorial traditions that might not make sense to a first-time attendee. Explain why everyone gathers at the grave, why prayers and eulogies offered, and why a headstone is placed at the site. Giving your child clarity on these small details can help them understand the significance of the service as a whole and better process their grief or confusion. You can also explain burial or cremation as they relate to your loved one’s wishes or your family’s beliefs. 

If you need assistance with funeral planning, consult the compassionate staff at Jacqueline M. Ryan Home for Funerals. Since 1947, this funeral home has helped families throughout Keansburg, NJ, and the surrounding areas plan and hold memorial services for lost loved ones. With professional expertise and kind, gentle guidance, they offer a range of services like funeral pre-planning, casket selection, and cremation services. Call (732) 787-1177 to speak with a funeral director or visit their website for more information.