Death is a natural part of life. Children learn about dying and grief by participating in family rituals surrounding the death of a loved one. Attending a funeral service may help children cope with their sadness. Here’s a guide to help you decide if and when your child should attend a funeral.

When Is It Appropriate for a Child to Attend a Funeral?

Age of the Child

Infants and toddlers are generally too young to bring to a service without being a distraction. Unless their attendance fulfills a special request made by the decedent, leave very young children at home with a babysitter.

Many preschool-aged children, those in elementary school, and older kids who are able to sit through a funeral service are likely to understand what’s happening. To prepare them, explain what will take place at the service, and describe how people may react and express their grief.

Relationship to the Deceased

Death may be an abstract concept even for older children. It doesn’t make sense to have them attend a memorial for someone they weren’t close to. If the deceased is a sibling, parent, or grandparent, invite them to attend. It will help them say goodbye. If you’re in deep mourning, find a trusted family friend to help look after your children so you’re free to grieve on your own terms.

Rituals to Avoid

Think about all aspects of a funeral service, including the viewing, the religious requirements, and the graveside service. Taking a preschool or elementary school child to a viewing or graveside ceremony be too distressing. Older children can be given the choice of which aspects of a funeral to attend. If you discuss each facet of a service and behavioral expectations with your children, they can choose if attending would feel safe and comforting.

For professional, compassionate funeral services in Northern Kentucky, choose Middendorf Funeral Home. This family-owned business has been serving the community for over 150 years. They’re available to support your family with funeral preparations and services that honor lives and preserve memories. Call (859) 341-7800 to make an appointment with a funeral director, or visit their website to learn more about how they can serve you.