Free, open communication is the key to a healthy, fulfilling relationship, but speaking different languages can create barriers that may be difficult to overcome. Even someone who is fairly fluent in another language may have trouble expressing more nuanced thoughts and complex feelings, but this doesn’t have to strain your relationship. With the tips below as well as help from a skilled relationship counselor, you can keep the lines of conversation flowing over the language barrier.

3 Tips for Couples Dealing With Language Barriers

1. Learn Each Other’s Languages

Language is a tool for expressing yourself, so the more you know, the better you’ll be able to communicate. If you’re in a relationship with someone who learned to speak your language later in life, learning theirs will make understanding each other that much easier. This may make your partner more comfortable talking about their feelings, since they’ll be able to do so in their first language.

2. Be Patient Introducing Them to Family & Friends

Even if your partner is typically a fun, outgoing person, they may suddenly become shy around your family and friends. Understand that they may be self-conscious about their language skills, and need some time to become acclimated to the new social group. Be patient, and don’t prod them to participate in conversations if they’re not comfortable yet. Ask your partner to do the same for you when meeting friends who speak their language.

3. Choose Your Words Carefully

Relationship counselors always advise couples to choose words carefully, especially when you’re talking through a disagreement. A language barrier makes this even more important, since confusion and misunderstandings can lead to fights. Use the simplest words you can when discussing heavy topics, be ready to answer questions, and ask your partner if they understand your point of view.

Everyone needs help sometimes, which is why Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP is committed to helping you talk through your problems and find practical solutions. Their relationship counselor has over 20 years of experience providing award-winning service to couples throughout Rochester, NY, helping them build strong, healthy relationships. Visit their website for a closer look at their services, or call (585) 734-6826 to speak with an accomplished relationship counselor today.