Knowing what to do during a funeral service isn’t always easy, especially if you haven’t attended one before. Some families don’t want to receive condolences until the service is over, while others welcome words of support throughout the funeral and burial process. If you’re unsure about funeral etiquette, follow the do’s and don’ts below. 

Do:

Be on time.

Showing up late to a funeral service interrupts the ceremony and causes distraction. Being on time shows the family that you care, and minimizes any unwanted disruptions during the funeral service. If you’re unsure of where to sit, keep in mind that the first few rows are generally reserved for close relatives, so try to sit in the middle with familiar people. 

Introduce yourself.

Funerals usually include a receiving line with the family members of the deceased. Keep things brief by introducing yourself and how you knew their loved one. Give your condolences before moving on down the line.  

Sign the guestbook

It’s something for the family to remember the occasion and all who were present. Looking back on each of the names and their relation to the deceased could bring some level of comfort to the family, so don’t forget to sign your name clearly and neatly. 

Don’t:

Dress casually unless directed otherwise.

Semi-formal is the traditional expectation. It’s a sign of respect for the deceased and keeps the focus from falling on individual guests. Some families prefer to have guests dress in a more celebratory fashion, such as colorful dresses, so be sure to check the invitation before settling on a final outfit.

Leave your phone’s ringtone on.

Ringtones can instantly ruin a moment. Before entering the church or funeral home, take a moment to ensure that all sounds are on silent. Better yet, turn off the phone completely or leave it in your vehicle to avoid disruption.     

Take pictures during the ceremony.

Most families will have a professional photographer on-site to capture moments throughout the ceremony. Personal photos are best left for the reception, which usually follows the service. Don’t take photos during the funeral service, as it could be disrespectful to the family and distracting to surrounding mourners. 

If you or a loved one are planning a funeral service, reach out to Leo M. Bean And Sons Funeral Home in Rochester, NY. This family-owned business has been providing services for over 40 years and offers both traditional burials and cremations. Their funeral directors are fully licensed and serve clients with the utmost compassion. Learn more about their services on their website or call (585) 426-7830 to set up a consultation.