As difficult as going through a divorce is for you, it's even harder on your children. However, using the right approach when talking to your kids about divorce can minimize the trauma of the experience and make it easier on everyone. The experienced divorce lawyers at MacVean Lewis Sherwin & McDermott PC in Middletown, NY, have some tips for helping your children through this painful time.

• Avoid Placing Blame: Regardless of your personal feelings toward one another, you should avoid arguing in front of the children and trying to blame either of you for the failure of the marriage. This will only cause conflict and confusion for them, and won't make you feel any better.
• Provide A Reason: It may be uncomfortable, but you should be prepared to provide an explanation for the divorce that is as honest as possible and age-appropriate.
• Have A Plan: Your children will have many questions about their future, so have some agreements in place about living arrangements to minimize their uncertainty. The more concrete details you can provide, the better they'll feel.
• Tell Them You Love Them: It's important for them to know that the divorce has nothing to do with them, and it doesn't mean either of you love the children any less. Providing this simple reassurance from the outset can make the entire process easier.

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