Grief can be a difficult process for people of all ages to navigate. However, many children are experiencing this feeling for the first time, which can make loss especially challenging. They may not understand what death means, and they’ll likely have questions about funerals, caskets, and everything that goes along with saying goodbye to a loved one. Here are a few ways to support your child during this challenging time.

How to Help Your Child Through the Grieving Process

1. Encourage Them to Talk About Their Feelings

Like adults, every child will grieve in their own way. Meet them where they're at and try not to tell them how they should feel. Instead, encourage them to share what's on their mind, how they're feeling, and any questions they might have. Let them know that there are no "wrong" feelings or stupid questions. Urge them to put their emotions into words or into healthy actions, such as drawing, coloring, or telling stories. The goal is to get them to express themselves so you can validate their feelings and answer their questions.

2. Use Simple Language

Choose words that are age-appropriate for your child. When in doubt, keep your language as simple and accessible as you can. When answering questions, provide honest answers, even if those answers are uncomfortable. When explaining what will happen at the funeral or burial, use clear words that let the child know what to expect. A good rule of thumb is to utilize concrete language, such as saying "died" instead of "passed away." A child may misinterpret "passed away" and not understand the finality of the loss.

3. Talk About the Person Who Died

It can be tempting to try to avoid discussion of the deceased person out of concerns that it will upset the child. But remembering the deceased is important for helping the child find closure and retain fond memories of their departed loved one—memories separate from the pain of the loved one's death. Don't be afraid to share memories and use the name of the deceased; you're giving your child permission to share their feelings and remember someone important to them.

A funeral is an important ritual that offers loved ones of any age the opportunity to honor their loved one and say a final farewell. Johnson Funeral Home in Monroeville, AL, has been serving the area for over 70 years. They provide funeral planning and pre-planning services, cremations, and monuments. Call (251) 575-3222 or visit their website to schedule a consultation with a caring, compassionate funeral professional.