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Dealing with grief can be challenging, so helping your spouse cope with loss is crucial. Because everyone deals with sadness differently, knowing how to respond in emotional situations, such as planning or attending funeral services, can help your spouse feel supported, bringing you closer together. However, grief and loss are rarely straightforward, and while some may appreciate a sympathetic ear, others may prefer alone time. If your spouse is grieving, here’s what you can do. 

A Guide to Helping Your Spouse Deal With Loss

1. Respect Their Feelings

Since your feelings and emotions are different from your spouse's, it can be difficult to anticipate their reaction to loss. However, you can validate their feelings in whatever form they might manifest. Your partner may cry, become angry, or feel nothing at all, and while you may not understand their reaction, remind your spouse that their feelings are real and a natural part of the mourning process. 

2. Give Them Space

funeralIf your spouse seems distant or quiet when mourning the loss of a loved one, respect their boundaries, giving them the space they need to process their feelings and emotions on their own. While a desire to be with your spouse during such a difficult time is well-meaning, sorrow can be personal and may leave them feeling vulnerable or ashamed. 

3. Help With Everyday Tasks

Your spouse may shut down when dealing with loss, making it difficult to take care of routine tasks, such as housework, grocery shopping, or filling up the gas tank. Helping your spouse tackle these day-to-day chores will relieve added stresses, giving them more time to process their grief. If your spouse is planning the funeral or memorial service, offering to help with the arrangements will provide support.

 

If your spouse has recently lost a loved one, reach out to the compassionate staff at Porto Funeral Homes in New Haven County, CT. For over 75 years, their caring team has provided funeral services—including burials, cremation, and arrangements—with careful attention to detail, honoring the memory of loved ones. Contact their East Haven location at (203) 467-3000 or their West Haven location at (203) 934-5000, or visit them online to learn more about their services.

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