The topic of divorce can be an uncomfortable one to discuss. When you first discuss the subject with your spouse, the way you handle the conversation now can set the stage for the chain of events to follow. Before you hire divorce attorneys or make major decisions about the future, focus on having a peaceful, respectful, and productive talk with your spouse. Below are a few tips for doing that.
How to Discuss Divorce With Your Spouse
1. Be Prepared for Any Response
There is no one universal way that all spouses respond to hearing the words, "I want a divorce." Some couples fully understand that they've been heading in this direction for some time, while others may not think their relationship warrants a divorce. It’s best to mentally prepare yourself for any response. Your spouse might become overwhelmed or show no emotion at all. However they handle it, remain calm, let them express themselves, and aim to be supportive.
2. Bring It Up at an Appropriate Time
Don't mention your desire to divorce while locked in a heated argument with your spouse. It will feel like an insult or an attack, and that's not the right foot on which to start the divorce process. Sit down with them in a comfortable place and make sure it’s just the two of you, with no kids present and as few interruptions as possible. You can set up a time to talk before bedtime while the kids are sleeping or in the morning when everyone else is out of the house for the day.
3. Have a Conversation
Whether a spouse is expecting it or not, divorce is a big concept to try to digest. There's a good chance that you probably haven't totally processed it all yet. For this reason, it’s crucial to have an open conversation about what divorce means. It's also helpful to have some information going into the talk, such as what the next steps should be, like talking to a divorce attorney, seeing a counselor, or making alternative living arrangements until all the details are ironed out.
A divorce attorney will help you and your spouse navigate the changes ahead. The lawyers at Bitar & Bitar, LLP, have been representing clients throughout Western Pennsylvania since 1974. In addition to divorce, they also offer legal services in family and criminal law cases, personal and work injuries, real estate issues, and estate planning. Call (724) 339-1025 to schedule an appointment or visit their website to browse their practice areas.