Anger is a natural, healthy, and common emotion. There’s nothing wrong with occasionally getting upset or frustrated. However, if someone you love is constantly irritable or full of rage, and it’s beginning to affect their quality of life and yours, it may be time to have a conversation about anger management. Broaching the topic with tact and care can lead to better outcomes, so keep in mind the following helpful guidance. 

How to Talk to Someone With Anger Management Issues

1. Offer Empathy 

Your loved one may act angry if they feel they aren't being listened to or taken seriously. It is important when approaching a serious conversation with your loved one that you validate their feelings, actively listen when they speak, and let them know you respect their opinions. If your loved one expresses frustration, provide empathetic feedback such as, "I hear you," "I understand," and "I can see why you feel that way." 

2. Assert Your Boundaries

No matter how upset your loved one feels, they should treat you with respect. If your loved one engages in name-calling, shouting, or other forms of abuse when discussing their anger issues, tell them in a calm but firm tone that you will leave the room if the behavior does not stop immediately. Once this warning has been communicated, follow through if the behavior continues. You may want to practice these and other de-escalation strategies with a sympathetic friend or counselor. 

3. Stay Calm

Conversations about anger management can be fraught. The topic alone may trigger an angry response. Remember that responding to anger with anger will only make matters worse. If you see your loved one becoming upset, try to defuse the situation. Avoid raising your voice, even if they do. If the conversation becomes tense, try counting silently to 100 in your head to allow yourself time to think and breathe. 

If a loved one is struggling with anger issues, consider professional anger management at White Spruce Counseling in Rochester, NY. Their experienced staff provides guidance and support for a wide range of challenges, including domestic abuse, substance abuse, anger management, and other concerns. Contact their caring team today at (585) 424-2436, or visit them online to learn more about their services.