Even as an adult, it can be difficult to think about your parents passing away. However, avoiding the subject will only cause confusion and anxiety later on. By sitting down with your parents months or years in advance, you can learn about their preferences for various end-of-life decisions, from hospice care to funeral services. If you’re hoping to broach the topic of estate planning, here are a few tips to ease into the conversation.

3 Tips for Talking to Parents About Estate Planning

1. Look Inward

When asked to present personal information or make involved decisions on the spot, some parents might be tempted to put their guard up. Instead, think of your own answers to the questions you’re about to ask, and volunteer this information first. Tell your parents you’ve been thinking a lot about burial or cremation, then describe which option you’re leaning toward before asking them what they would prefer. Once you’ve offered your answer, you’ll have established an environment of trust, and they’ll feel much more comfortable giving up their own.

2. Ask How They’d Like to Say Goodbye

Asking your parent a laundry list of medical “what ifs” could leave them overwhelmed or upset. Instead, ask them on what terms they’d like to say goodbye to their loved ones. This might lead to a discussion of resuscitation, life support, and palliative care, which will help you understand where they might draw the line. Your father or mother might also add who they’d like to have the final say if they were on a mechanical respirator, and you can use this answer to suggest the appropriate medical power of attorney.

3. Shift to Financial Matters

If your parent seems to be uncomfortable with this end-of-life discussion, shift to the financial aspects of estate planning. For example, ask if they’ve ever outlined their wishes in a living will or trust and if they’d like to leave specific assets to their individual family members. Mention that with a trust, as opposed to a will, their loved ones wouldn’t have to wait for the document to go through weeks of probate. If your parent seems confused or overwhelmed by financial choices, recommend establishing a financial power of attorney, who could oversee these decisions on their behalf.

If your parents are ready to take action with the estate planning process, reach out to Stuart R. Norman Jr. of Griswold, CT. This attorney has over 40 years of experience in the local community, and he is proud to offer guidance on a wide range of end-of-life matters. From elder law to real estate cases, Attorney Norman and his team will work hard to provide peace of mind to you and your parents. Visit the website to learn more about his skills, and call (860) 376-0069 to schedule a consultation.