As much as you’d like to protect your children from the fallout of a divorce, you’ll eventually have to discuss the situation with them and prepare them for future changes. However, matters such as child custody and new living arrangements can be confusing, so you must plan ahead. If you're not sure how to begin this conversation, follow these steps.

How to Discuss Divorce & Child Custody With Your Kids

1. Choose an Ideal Meeting Place

This is likely going to be an emotional discussion, so having the conversation in public may not be the best idea. Choose a location where you can talk with minimal distractions, and plan it for a time when your spouse is also free to attend. Your phones should be set aside for the conversation, and the television and other electronics should be off. This is a time to focus solely on your family.

2. Present a United Front

Although emotions may be running high, you'll want to refrain from making negative comments about your spouse in front of your children. Instead, try to maintain a cordial relationship in their presence and talk to them together about the divorce. Also, if issues of child custody arise, it's best not involve your children in the argument. Instead, wait until the problem is settled and tell them about the new agreement together.

3. Explain the Situation Honestly

Matters of divorce can be confusing for children, and some may even feel guilt upon hearing the news. To counteract these thoughts, be honest and explain that you and their other parent have been having problems getting along. Try to explain that the relationship has failed without placing blame on anyone, and focus on the positive aspects of building a new family dynamic.

4. Answer Every Question

Your children will have plenty of questions that may come right away or several days down the road. Answer them as honestly as you can to avoid hurt feelings, and stay away from law terminology that they may not understand. Instead, speak to them as naturally as possible, so they'll have a better grasp of how the divorce will affect them.

If you need help navigating the many complex factors of divorce, contact The Law Office and Mediation Center of Jeannine M. Talbot in Torrington, CT. From seeking child custody to ensuring you obtain a fair settlement, Attorney Jeannine can help you present a strong case. To schedule an initial consultation, visit her website or call (860) 482-9004.