When a friend or family member has lost their spouse, you are likely grieving as well. However, you still want to provide grief support and a steady shoulder to cry on. It can be difficult to be the rock when you are suffering as well. However, the tips below will help you offer comfort in their time of loss.

How to Provide Grief Support When a Loved One Loses a Spouse

1. Be a Good Listener

Two mistakes many people make when attempting to help a loved one through a loss are pressing for too many details and feeling uncomfortable about death and pulling back from the conversation. Be a good listener during this difficult period. Let your loved one share as much or as little as they need, even if you're curious to know more—or even if it's painful to talk about it.

2. Help as Needed

The most common phrase survivors hear after a death is, "If there's anything I can do...let me know." Don't leave the ball in your loved one's court. Stop by their house, bring food, and make yourself available.

However, don't try to take charge and do everything. The bereaved person may need something to keep their mind occupied. Spend time with them and ask what you can do, but don't crowd them. If they would rather be alone, give them space.

3. Reminisce

Your loved one might want to hear the memories you have about their spouse. Reminiscing allows you to relive those special moments. Share funny stories, memorable moments, or just how much you miss them.  Encourage your friend to do the same. Many people enjoy this type of grief support activity, even if it is bittersweet. 

If you or a friend is involved in funeral planning, consider Eackles-Spencer & Norton Funeral Home in Harpers Ferry. WV. They have been serving residents of Jefferson County and the surrounding areas for more than 100 years. In addition to burial and cremation services, they can provide surviving family members with several grief support resources. Visit their website to message them online or call (304) 724-6500 to arrange a consultation with a compassionate funeral director.