To help navigate the often-overwhelming feelings that come with bereavement, individuals rely on friends and loved ones for comfort. But as a friend of a grieving person, it's not uncommon to feel helpless and unsure of the best steps to take to provide relief. Fortunately, your efforts don't have to be big or over the top. Often just showing up is enough, and here are a few ways you can do that.

How to Comfort a Grieving Friend

1. Listen

Listening to your friend can be one of the most helpful things you can do for them in their bereavement. Encourage them to share their feelings, their sadness, and their sense of loss by letting them talk. If they want to talk about more mundane topics or logistical details, like their daily life or the process of planning the funeral service, let them. Allow them to direct the conversation and share what they're comfortable with sharing. Don't minimize the loss by saying the deceased is in a better place, or at least they're out of pain now. All you need to do is lend an ear and be a shoulder to lean on.

2. Make Some Practical Contributions

Those in the grip of bereavement are trying to manage a deluge of emotions and memories, and they may not know—or be able to vocalize—precisely what they need during this trying time. Take the initiative and make some practical contributions to the household. Stop by with a casserole and put it in the refrigerator. Walk the dog or scoop out the litterbox. Offer to run errands or do a bit of light housework. Tasks like these may seem small and insignificant, but they demonstrate your love and support for your friend in quiet, sustaining, and nourishing ways.

3. Assure Them of Your Support

Everyone grieves differently, and bereavement doesn't happen on any defined timeline. One person may initially be hit hard and then slowly heal. Another may at first distract themselves with details and only experience the first, piercing waves of loss days or weeks later. Regardless, let your friend know that you're there for them—whenever and wherever. Let them know that they can call or text you at any time of the day or night. Remind them they are not alone in this.

A funeral or memorial service is a crucial part of the bereavement process and will help your friend find closure and healing. Melvin T. Strider Colonial Funeral Home has been serving families throughout the Ranson, Charles Town, Martinsburg, and Inwood, WV, area since 1889. From funeral planning to burials and cremations, they are here to provide the highest levels of compassionate service and care. Call (304) 725-7068 or visit them online to schedule a consultation.