Coping with the loss of someone you love is challenging and painful. While it may be difficult to make decisions during this time, many families find it cathartic to plan a loving farewell. If you’re torn between making arrangements for a traditional funeral or a memorial service, here’s some information that may help you decide.

How to Choose Between a Memorial & Funeral

How do these services differ?

A funeral is usually held with either the body of the deceased or their cremated remains present. It may take place at a funeral home, a religious venue, or at the gravesite.

Cremated remains may be present at a memorial service, but the body is typically not. This option is often chosen when the family doesn’t have access to the body, such as for missing persons or military personnel. The memorial may also be more casual in nature, or a celebration of life. Like a funeral, this is an opportunity for loved ones to gather, grieve, and share memories. 

When do they traditionally take place?

Funeral arrangements are generally made shortly after the person’s passing, and the service is held soon thereafter. If the body is cremated, the family may elect to spend more time making plans.

Memorial services can occur at any time after the person’s death. Some families may choose to have a private funeral for family members, followed by a more public memorial service at a later date.  

Do they include wakes?

The body is present at a wake, so only funeral services typically include this step. This is a chance for mourners to gather and pay their final respects. This event may occur in the home of the deceased or of a family member, or at the funeral home.

How can I personalize these services?

Both funerals and memorials can be tailored to best honor your loved one. There are no right or wrong answers when it comes to planning these services. For example, you may opt for assistance from the funeral director when selecting a casket or urn, or choose to implement your own ideas.

To personalize these services, you can include readings from your loved one’s favorite book or the Bible, meaningful music, and flower arrangements that represent what they mean to you. You may also have guests read eulogies to honor the person’s memory, share your grief, and provide everyone with chances to mourn and remember.
 

Turn to the compassionate staff at Brown Funeral Homes & Cremations in Martinsburg, WV, to help you during this difficult time. Serving the community since 1880, this family-owned funeral home is here to assist with funeral arrangements and memorial services. Visit their website for more information about your options or call (304) 263-8896 to speak with a funeral director.