Divorce is always difficult for the children, even if they’re fully grown adults when you decide to separate. While you can expect your kids to be somewhat shocked and angry about the news, how you approach the conversation can help them come to terms with your divorce and promote healthier long-term relationships. If your marriage is coming to an end, and you’re already met with your divorce attorney, here are some suggestions for making the discussion as easy as possible.

How to Discuss Divorce With Your Adult Children

1. Talk to Them Together

Your adult children likely have jobs and families and may be spread across the country. However, talking to them all at once will give them a sense of emotional support and make the conversation more productive.

2. Be Honest

Your children will almost certainly have questions about your divorce, and they deserve honest answers. Remember that, as adults, they’ll likely learn the truth from someone else or figure it out on their own, so be as forthcoming as possible.

3. Don’t Blame Each Other

While honesty is essential to a healthy discussion, it’s also important not to blame the other parent for the divorce. Otherwise, your children may feel compelled to choose sides, which can foster resentment and permanently damage your relationships.

4. Give Them Space to Have Their Own Emotions

While you’re likely dealing with your own heartbreak and confusion, your children will need room to talk about their own feelings. Leave your own experience and emotions aside for the moment, and give them space to express themselves.

5. Don’t Make Them Intermediaries

Don’t put your children in the middle of the divorce. They may be capable, responsible adults, but they are still your children, and making them act as go-betweens puts them in an uncomfortable situation.

For over 25 years, the divorce attorneys at Arndt Buswell & Thorn S.C. have helped clients throughout Western Wisconsin navigate the difficulties of the process and start their lives over. Their team prides itself on giving you the effective legal representation you need and the compassionate service you deserve during this difficult experience. Follow their Twitter for more legal tips, and visit their website to schedule a consultation in Monroe County. To speak with a divorce attorney in Sparta, call (608) 269-1200, or dial (608) 486-2324 to reach their Bangor location.