Grieving the loss of a loved one can be difficult. End of life and separation are never easy, and people’s minds and bodies go through various stages to help them cope with the tragedy long after the funeral. If you’re grieving a loved one’s passing, what you’re feeling is perfectly normal. There are five different stages of emotion that many people go through, but it’s important to remember that your process does not have to be the same as someone else’s. 

What is the Grieving Process? 

1. Denial & Isolation

Many people find themselves denying the circumstances and the reality of their loss. It’s a common defense mechanism that helps their minds rationalize the overwhelming emotions they’re experiencing. This is where you might find yourself loosing blocks of time, not remembering specific conversations at the funeral, yearning to be alone, or ignoring what’s happened altogether.

2. Anger

Your mind is trying to wrap itself around what’s happened, which often manifests as frustration and anxiety. This build-up of anger and lack of comprehension can lead people to blame the dying or deceased, even though it’s not their fault. They are upset that they’re left with so much pain, and they will look for ways to release it, whether it be unintentionally lashing out at others, partaking in mindless activities, or falling into a depression. 

 3. Bargaining 

If your loved one has a terminal illness, bargaining is common. It often presents as creating secret bargains with a higher power, making “What if” or “If only” statements that you rationally know cannot be answered. People often feel guilty for a loved one’s death, and the bargaining stage is another defense mechanism that is used as a way for people to deal with the pain of feeling like they could have done more.

4. Depression

Feeling overwhelmed and anxious is very common, which can lead to depression. You might feel guilty for not being able to be there for others, but the overwhelming sadness takes over, which can lead to you to be hostile, unapproachable, or inconsolable. In actuality, you need to keep yourself surrounded by those that love you. 

5. Acceptance

You’ll know that you’ve reached this stage when you have entirely accepted what has happened and that your loved one is no longer with you. This can come with an overwhelming sense of peace, but a lack of happiness. It’s not an indication of depression, but it can result in a brief withdrawal from social activities. You might also find that you’ve readjusted to new daily norms during this stage. 

Planning a funeral often leaves surviving loved ones feeling overwhelmed and underprepared. That’s why it’s essential to seek out help from the caring and sensitive staff at Frederick Funeral Home in Cincinnati, OH. Since 1932, they have been organizing thoughtful and respectful funeral, memorial, and cremation ceremonies. To make final preparations for your loved one, give them a call today at (513) 522-3700. You can also find more resources on their website.