Whenever possible, it’s always best to negotiate a settlement with your spouse during a divorce, but this isn’t always easy. Anger, hurt feelings, and bitterness often make communication seem impossible until it seems as though you have no choice but to take the matter to court. The tips below can help keep the lines of communication open so you, your spouse, and your divorce attorneys can resolve important issues peacefully.

How to Communicate With Your Spouse During a Divorce 

1. Don’t Respond When You’re Upset

Whether your spouse just gave you an unfair settlement offer or you believe they’ve been cheating you out of marital assets, don’t initiate a conversation when you’re upset. Calling, texting, or sending an email when you’re angry can have significant consequences for your case, so wait until your temper has simmered before responding. Taking some time to cool down will create a more civil environment and help you avoid giving your spouse material to use against you.

2. Take Care With Social Media

Not only can your social media posts be used against you in a divorce proceeding, but the content you share can get back to your spouse and potentially spark a fight. Until your case is resolved, avoid discussing the divorce on any social media platforms, and try not to share any details about your personal life online. 

3. Keep a Cordial Tone

In delicate situations, how you say something can be even more important than the content of your message. Experienced divorce attorneys recommend keeping a cordial tone during any conversation, even if you fundamentally disagree with their position. Being polite, if not warm and friendly, can go a long way toward helping you negotiate an amicable end to your marriage.

4. Hire a Mediator 

Divorce mediators have extensive negotiation experience and specific skill sets that can help you and your spouse find common ground and resolve important issues yourselves. Depending on the circumstances, a mediator can help you decide on a fair property division arrangement, child custody schedules, and a wide range of other financial problems that may seem impossible to solve.

If your marriage is coming to an end, you will need the guidance of an experienced, compassionate attorney with an impressive track record of positive results. For over 30 years, John D. Wieser Esq., PC has helped clients throughout Rochester, NY, negotiate peaceful resolutions to difficult situations so they can begin the next phase of their lives. Visit their website for more information on their family law services. Call (585) 328-0660 to schedule a free consultation with a divorce attorney today.