Losing a loved one is often the greatest emotional challenge a person will face in their lifetime. The event can be especially difficult for children, many of whom lack experience with death. To help you prepare your child for the funeral, cemetery, and grieving process, here are three tips for speaking to children about losing a loved one.  

3 Tips for Talking to Your Child About Losing a Loved One 

1. Start the Conversation Early

If you know that a close friend or loved one is about to pass away, prepare your child in advance. For example, you could gently explain to your child that their grandparent is very sick and will pass away soon. Use the type of language and amount of detail you feel is right for your child’s age and personality. Preparing your child before the death can help ease some of their shock and confusion after it happens. It can also help them understand the physical changes their loved one is experiencing and allow them to say goodbye.

2. Be Honest

It’s normal to want to shield children from the reality of death in an attempt to protect them from pain. However, parents can often facilitate a healthier grieving process by speaking about death openly and honestly. Truthfully answer any questions your child has in a manner you feel is appropriate for their age. Additionally, use clear and simple language to share your family’s beliefs about the afterlife and to explain what your child can expect at the funeral and cemetery.

3. Let Them Grieve in Their Own Way

No matter how much you prepare your child for the loss, they’re going to grieve in their own way. They may ask questions, cry, express anger, or show no reaction. Regardless of their response, let them know their feelings are healthy and acceptable. In the days, weeks, and months following the death, check in with your child regularly, and encourage them to express their grief in a comfortable way. For example, they may want to visit the cemetery, share memories, or make art to honor the deceased. 

If you’ve recently lost a loved one, turn to the caring team at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery in Rochester, NY. Established over 145 years ago, this serene cemetery provides traditional, green, and mausoleum burials. To support grieving families, the cemetery also hosts many memorial events, including a monthly Mass of Remembrance and Luminary services in November and December that invite each bereaved family to light a candle in honor of their loved one. Learn more about their compassionate services online and call (585) 458-4110 to discuss your family’s needs.