While planning a loved one’s funeral, you’ll also need to address the event and what it means with your children, especially if they’ve never had a close friend or relative pass away before. Whether they’re grieving or don’t fully understand what has happened, here are a few tips to guide the conversation.

Be Open, Honest, & Willing to Share Information

Attempting to hide or indirectly address a loved one’s passing is never a good idea. Children can recognize when you’re upset, and refusing to tell them what happened can spark worry and uncertainty. Instead, explain clearly and directly that a loved one has died. 

Depending on your relationship with the deceased or your child’s age, you may need to explain how this will change the child’s life, even if it’s only temporary. Be willing to answer any questions your child may have. It may also be helpful to explain what the funeral will be like, so they’ll be better prepared for the event.

Allow Your Child to Share Their Emotions

Attending a funeral or learning of a loved one’s death can be emotionally difficult for a child. Remember that people grieve differently. Your child might cry or lash out in anger. Be willing to listen to them and offer comfort, even if it’s just a hug or a few reassuring words. 

Give your child time to heal, but also look for ways to help them feel better, such as participating in favorite activities. Giving your child a role in funeral proceedings or finding a way to remember a loved one together can also be helpful.

If you need help planning a funeral or cremation services for a loved one, turn to Porto Funeral Homes. Serving New Haven County, CT, for over 75 years, the caring staff at this family-run funeral home will provide compassionate service as they help you prepare a dignified way to memorialize your loved one. To learn more about their services, visit them online or call (203) 467-3000 (East Haven) or (203) 934-5000 (West Haven).