Sharing Child Custody? How to Co-Parent With Your Ex
Because it’s almost always in a child’s best interests to maintain a close relationship with both parents, joint custody arrangements are common. As such, most couples have to learn how to co-parent with each other following their breakup. Although cooperating with your ex isn't necessarily easy, there are ways to make the child custody arrangement more seamless for everyone.
How to Be a Copacetic Co-Parent
1. Keep the Kids Out of It
Do not use your children as messengers when you must convey information to your ex, as this can place them in the middle of the conflict. You should also avoid making the kids feel like they have to choose sides, so don’t badmouth each other in front of them. Lastly, don't ask where they want to spend any time that's not accounted for in the schedule.
2. Focus on the Task at Hand
When communicating with your ex, focus solely on the subject you need to discuss. Maintain a business-like tone that’s both respectful and neutral, and always stick to the topic in question, whether it’s meeting places, practice times, or holidays. If you get off-track and start talking about anything but the kids, an argument may ensue and the situation could escalate.
3. Treat Your Ex Like You Wish to Be Treated
For example, if you would want your ex to include you as an emergency contact at sports practice, make sure you include them as the backup contact at summer camp. Leaving your ex out just to be petty may be tempting, but it will only end up hurting the kids. Approaching co-parenting in a rational, reasonable manner, on the other hand, should inspire your ex to do the same.
If you’re facing a stressful child custody situation, turn to Payne Law Office for guidance. Located in Lincoln, NE, they value their clients above all else. Their legal team takes the time to get to know each client so they can determine precisely what’s at stake. This allows them to devise practical solutions for securing the most favorable outcomes possible. To schedule a consultation about child custody or another concern, call (402) 477-7246.
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