As you and your partner build a life together, there will be many milestones and events. Some, like weddings and births, will be joyous; others, like the loss of family members and the memorial services that follow, will be painful. Watching a partner grieve the death of a parent can be especially difficult, and it's not uncommon to feel helpless as you witness their pain. However, there are a few actions you can take to ensure your partner has the support they need.

How to Help a Partner Grieve the Death of a Parent

1. Encourage Them to Feel Whatever They're Feeling

If your partner needs to cry, let them cry. Don't try to get them to stop or try to stifle their emotions. Simply be present. If they're feeling angry at the injustice of such a loss, or even at their deceased parent, let them express their frustrations. If they want to be alone, give them their space. Check in on them, but don't hover around, and don't try to “fix” anything. Grief manifests differently from person to person. Allow your partner to fully experience whatever they're feeling.

2. Focus on Practical Tasks

People experiencing grief are often so overwhelmed with emotion that carrying out normal day-to-day tasks can seem insurmountable. Your partner may not even consciously realize they need help with these responsibilities, so don't wait for them to ask; just pitch in. Handle the meal preparation, clean the house, walk the dog, or mow the lawn. Sometimes these small contributions can be the most effective ways to help your partner.

3. Don't Minimize Their Pain

You don't have to know what to do or what to say, and it's perfectly fine to tell this to your partner. However, make sure you also tell them that you're there for them and will do whatever you can do offer your love and support. When seeing another person in pain, especially at a memorial service, it can be tempting to try to minimize their distress with platitudes. However, pithy sayings aren't helpful to a person who’s grieving. Instead, tell them that you recognize that this experience is hard for them and that you’re there for them.

When you need compassionate assistance in planning a memorial service, trust Jacqueline M. Ryan Home for Funerals in Keansburg, NJ. Since 1947, they’ve served families throughout the Monmouth County, NJ, area. They offer funeral planning and pre-planning and cremation services, as well as a selection of caskets and cremation urns. They are here to help you, your partner, and the rest of the family navigate the challenges of this difficult time. Call (732) 787-1177 or visit them online to start the memorial service planning process.