The death of a partner often brings a profound sense of loss. After you’ve gone through the funeral arrangement process, you may return home and not know what to do with yourself. Grieving is normal during this period, but knowing how to cope and what to look out for is helpful. Here’s a guide that may help you grieve in the healthiest way possible.

Understanding Grief

There is no best way to grieve, and every emotion you’re feeling is valid. It’s easy to numb yourself to these feelings while you’re making funeral arrangements, then have them hit you like a ton of bricks. People may feel sad, angry, shocked, or fearful. You also might resent your spouse for leaving or feel guilty for being the one who’s still alive. These are all common stages of the grieving process, and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for feeling anything. 

However, it is possible for grieving to become unhealthy for you. If you have trouble caring for yourself through essential tasks like getting dressed and preparing meals, you might be experiencing some form of depression. In this case, you should talk to your doctor. It’s also important to avoid excessive alcohol consumption, smoking, or drugs. These substances only mask your emotions and can lead to health problems in the long run. 

Ways to Cope After the Funeral Arrangements 

Finding the best way to cope with your loss is a very personal journey. Steps that work for others may not work for you and vice versa. Tell your family members and friends what you need and don’t need. They might avoid talking about your spouse when you actually want to share memories, for example. A grief counselor or therapist can be helpful for exploring your feelings.

You should also stay social and avoid isolation, which only fuels feelings of depression. This can mean spending time with friends you and your spouse shared and/or making new ones. To meet new people, consider joining a support group, bowling league or knitting circle, or any community surrounding your interests. You can also volunteer for a cause that’s important to you or your loved one, which will help you honor their memory in a positive, productive way.

Brown Funeral Home & Cremations in Martinsburg, WV, will help ease the burden of planning funeral arrangements. They know how difficult losing someone special is, and work hard to offer services that make the funeral beautiful and respectful. They can also refer you to grief support specialists to help you during this trying time. Learn more about what they do online or call (304) 263-8896 to reach a funeral director.