Even if you and your spouse agree that it’s time to go your separate ways, divorce is always an emotionally difficult experience. However, it’s even harder for your children who have to cope with losing the only family they’ve ever known. While your children will likely be upset, experienced divorce attorneys know that how you go about telling them can have a major impact on how they process the news. Here are a few tips for discussing divorce with your children.

Talking to Your Children About Divorce

1. Do It Together

When discussing divorce with your children, it’s essential to present a united front and do it together. Otherwise, it will seem as though divorce is something one parent is doing to the family, which can create resentment and anger that can linger for years. Sitting down with your kids together will reinforce the idea that a divorce is best for everyone.

2. Have an Explanation 

Children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ problems, so be honest about the reasons for your divorce. However, avoid the temptation to place blame, and don’t argue in front of the children. Even if the divorce is acrimonious and you’re only communicating through your attorneys, set aside your differences for the sake of your children.

3. Prepare a Plan

After telling your kids that you’re planning to divorce, they’ll understandably have a lot of questions. Having answers ready will help alleviate their anxiety and uncertainty, so decide in advance where they’ll live and who will take care of them until the divorce is finalized.

4. Tell Them You Love Them

Children need to hear that even though you and your spouse no longer love one another, your feelings for them haven’t changed. Be sure to tell them you love them and you’ll still be family, even though you and your spouse will no longer be living together.

If you’re going through a divorce, Luke A. Weiland, Attorney at Law, will provide the compassionate attention and effective legal services you need. They have been serving families throughout the Wisconsin Rapids, WI, area for 12 years and have the skills to guide you through this difficult experience. Visit their website or call (715) 422-6808 to speak with an attorney, and follow their Twitter page for more tips and insight.