It might be a tough decision to take small children to the funeral service for a loved one. This decision will probably depend on if you feel they’re able to handle the service. Funeral directors, parents, guardians, and close family members can all offer guidance on this topic. This guide can also help you.

How do I know if a child should attend?

Generally, children above preschool age will have enough of a grasp on the concept of death to attend a funeral. The attendance of younger children can be determined by their closeness to the relative. Bringing an infant can be a distraction from the services, but exceptions will likely be understood if the service is for the parent or grandparent of the child.

Pre-Kindergarten-aged children and toddlers can be more difficult in these situations since they tend to be more active, making them a handful at such a somber event. You can base the decision on the child’s nature. Children at this age can be given toys and activity books to distract themselves.

Which parts of the service should children skip?

Since funeral services can have multiple parts, it’s up to the adults to determine which portions are appropriate for the child. Open-casket ceremonies may be stressful for a young child since this can confuse them or give them nightmares.

Cemetery burials can also be traumatic for children, so many parents choose to keep their children away from the cemetery while attending any proceedings afterward.

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