Delivering a eulogy at a friend or family member's funeral is an honor, but can be a difficult experience. The speech may cause nervousness and anxiety, especially if you are not comfortable with public speaking. The tips below will help you relax and deliver a eulogy that will celebrate the person who has passed and comfort their family as they grieve.

5 Tips for Delivering a Eulogy

1. Practice Reading the Eulogy Aloud

Once you have the eulogy written, you need to get comfortable speaking it. Read it out loud until you find you've committed much of it to memory. Not only will this help calm your nerves, but it will also help you become more familiar with any words that are difficult to pronounce. Another reason why you should practice reading it aloud is that it might cut down on your tears. Of course, you may still breakdown during the eulogy, but you will feel controlled enough so that the attendees at the funeral can understand you.

2. Speak Slowly

If you are nervous, you might rush through the speech too quickly. Try to slow down, enunciate clearly, and breathe consciously. You took a long time to craft a fitting eulogy, and you will want to make sure that the friends and family of the deceased will be able to understand the wonderful message. If you stumble or get choked up, pause for a moment, take a drink of water, and gather your composure.

3. Dress Appropriately

Depending on the type of service, you may be expected to dress conservatively. Talk to the family if you are unsure what would be considered appropriate. Don't wear shoes that are uncomfortable or clothes that are binding. Because you will be standing for an extended period of time, you need to look presentable but comfortable enough so that you will not be distracted. 

4. Look Up Periodically

Make eye contact with the guests and try not to stare at your notes the entire time. Looking up allows you to connect with the audience on a personal level and reduce your own anxiety.

5. Speak From the Heart

The best eulogies aren't just recounting the deceased's history or reading a list of their accomplishments. They are personalized, unique, and have personal anecdotes. Share personal memories about your lost loved one and don’t be afraid to display your emotions. It's okay to talk about funny moments and even share a laugh. You want to comfort the audience and stir their memories, too. Finish the eulogy with an upbeat final memory and leave the audience with words of encouragement as they grieve.

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