Loosing a loved one is a difficult topic to discuss. It can be tough to provide consolation to a friend who is grieving, especially if you aren’t entirely sure what to say. That’s a normal reaction, and it’s important to remember that your presence is just as important as your words. Below, find ways to support your friend, both during the funeral and after.

How to Support a Friend in Grief

1. Be Present

Your friend will receive many expressions of sympathy during the funeral and in the days following. But as a close confidante, you play a significant role in providing the type of support they truly need during this difficult time. Provide an open line of communication for anything they want to talk about. You don’t have to avoid using the deceased’s name, as talking about them and honoring their life is an integral part of the healing process. Let them know that you’re there whenever they want to chat, but also offer silent support if that’s what is more beneficial to them. It’s not always easy to talk in the aftermath of a loss, and sometimes the most cathartic action is to sit quietly, reflect, or cry.

2. Provide Tangible Help

It’s difficult to stay on top of everyday activities like cooking and cleaning during periods of grief. Make it a point to step in and offer some physical assistance as needed. Offer to prepare the house for visitors after the funeral or memorial service. Take some time to help out during the weeks after, too. Bring food for their family, pick up groceries, take out the trash, or tidy up the house periodically. Alleviating small tasks can make an enormous difference to a person who is suffering emotionally and doesn’t have the energy to carry them out. 

3. Reach Out Continuously 

In a strong friendship, you may connect frequently. However, make it a point to stay in contact weeks after the funeral when everyone else has gone home. It’s often those “firsts” are very difficult in the aftermath of losing someone, like the first birthday, Thanksgiving, and anniversary of their passing. Make a mental note of when these occasions are and let the person know that you’re thinking about them. Plan fun activities on this day not only to honor the loved one who passed, but to distract your friend with positive energy. It will mean a lot to the person that you remembered, and it will also provide them with a chance to share their emotions with you in a constructive way.

Families throughout Meadville, PA, have trusted the compassionate staff at Robert W. Waid Funeral Home during difficult times for over a century. This dedicated team assists in the arrangement of funerals, cremations, and memorial services. The family-owned funeral home can also help complete paperwork for the obituary, Social Security, and life insurance benefits as needed. To find out more about how they can help, visit them online, or call (814) 724-1021.