The emotions and lifestyle changes that come with losing a spouse are challenging, even with a strong support system or grief counseling. Eventually, as time passes, your bereavement will subside as you learn to move forward. In the meantime, here are a few tips to help you cope.

Advice for Coping With the Loss of a Spouse

1. Be Gentle With Yourself

When your spouse dies, you may feel numb, shocked, scared, heartbroken, or even guilty. Remember that there is no “right” way to feel. How you grieve is unique to your personality and ever-changing emotions. Give yourself permission to mourn in whatever ways feel natural.

2. Don’t Rush to Sort Through Belongings

Don't force yourself to go through your spouse's clothes and personal belongings until you feel entirely ready. You may not have the energy or feel the need to do anything with them for a long time. Ignore any pressure from others and give yourself all the time you need.

3. Find a Support System

Dealing with loss can be isolating and confusing. Even if you feel compelled to turn people away, you’ll likely feel better if you seek support from friends, family, or grief counseling. Also, consider joining a support group with others who are mourning.

4. Take Care of Your Physical Health

The long, unpredictable process of mourning can take a toll on your health. If you have trouble sleeping or have no appetite, eat balanced meals, exercise, and try to sleep when you can — even if you don’t feel like it. Check in with a healthcare provider if you have trouble performing everyday activities.

5. Be Mindful of Your Limits

When you lose a spouse, you may find that your energy is low or you have trouble thinking clearly. Pay attention to your body. Seek time with friends, but don’t overbook yourself to avoid being alone. Don't feel guilty about lightening your schedule and taking extra time for yourself.

 

If you're grieving the loss of your spouse, contact the compassionate staff members at Lawlor Funeral Home in Columbia, IL. They have been providing Monroe County, IL, and the St. Louis metropolitan area with funeral planning, burial services, and grief counseling since 1896. This local funeral home is committed to providing emotional support, thanks to an online system with 24/7 access to interactive videos and counseling services. To learn more about their grief counseling or funeral services, visit their website or speak with a counselor at (618) 281-4123.